10 Ways You Can Help A Mentally Ill Friend

1. Listen To listen, with nothing more attached, is a powerful help. How often you do feel really listened to? Just let your friend talk. Make it clear they have your full attention: put your phone away, allow them to make eye contact with you, and give verbal and non-verbal feedback. Don’t be afraid of … Continue reading 10 Ways You Can Help A Mentally Ill Friend

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My “Choice” To Be Bisexual

One person, when I recently told them that I am bisexual, responded by saying ‘Well, that’s your choice’. Here’s a short, sweet explanation of exactly what I have been able to choose about my sexuality. The Parts I Don’t Choose My sexuality. Who I’m sexually attracted to ain’t my choice. For me that can be … Continue reading My “Choice” To Be Bisexual

It’s Okay To Not Forgive

“Forgive and forget” is a maxim that will be familiar to nearly everyone who has grown up in an English-speaking country. After all, the English-speaking countries are historically Christian and forgiveness is one of the central rules of Christianity. In fact, both Christianity and modern culture have a huge culture of forgiveness, and this is … Continue reading It’s Okay To Not Forgive

Therapy Reflection #2

Why are therapists so obsessed with the past? I don’t want to talk about my childhood in therapy. Perhaps I will one day; perhaps then it will be helpful for me. But right now, no. There are reasons for this. Firstly, the reason I’m in therapy is because I want – no, need to change … Continue reading Therapy Reflection #2

Therapy Reflection #1

This is the first in what I intend to be a series of posts where I reflect on my weekly therapy sessions. I’m writing this series for a couple of reasons. First, I hope that it will be interesting and helpful for me to reflect  on my therapy in writing a couple of days after … Continue reading Therapy Reflection #1

Why I Am Not Happy With My ME/CFS Diagnosis

Two weeks ago I was diagnosed with ME/CFS. It didn’t come as a surprise; it was obvious that that was what I had. Two members of my family have had it for a very long time, so I know most of what there is to know about it. And I was pretty upset. Which surprised … Continue reading Why I Am Not Happy With My ME/CFS Diagnosis